I have a blog?

Wow it's been awhile.

It's not like much has happened since March in the world, right?

Have I missed anything?

Wow.

Well, obviously, we have a black president named Barack Hussein Obama. As many of you faithful readers know, I am gay for Obama (megagay in fact, rest-stop gloryhole gay!) so this makes me very happy. Indeed, I finally have the rallying point to motivate me to become a United States citizen. As promised, I have completed the application and am mailing it out in a few days. Exciting stuff.

There's tons more to talk about politically and economically (UGH!) but I'll get to that in another blog (hopefully in less than 6 months this time). This one's personal.

Let's see, on July 12th, 2008, I married the lovely Janessa Lazon in a beautiful ceremony in Berkeley, California. The ceremony was in a redwood grove on the Berkeley campus and the reception was at a lovely restaurant called Adagia right across the street from the law school from whence I matriculated. Janessa planned 95% of things and, as usual, did an amazing job. Everything was perfect, we had a wonderful time and our familes got along famously. I always thought weddings were ubercheesy and lame and scripted and more for families than for the people getting married - but ours was different. We planned it (well, Janessa did with my input) and it reflected who we are as people, which made it feel much better.

The restaurant served all organic, vegetarian cuisine, which many of our family members prospectively complained about - but all loved when they actually ate it. Instead of cake, Janessa got a ton of cupcakes made so that people could have different flavor choices and so that we could accomodate dietary restrictions. Also, Janessa wore an absolutely beautiful vintage 50s wedding dress which knocked me on my ass. Truly, and I know I'm biased, but still, she was the most insanely gorgeous bride in the history of bridedom.

Pictures will follow to verify all this. We only got them recently. I don't want to go into why too much, but suffice it to say our photographer is a total unreliable douchebag. Well, at least the pictures are great. Once we have time to go through them all we'll make discs to send to the family and picture books and all that great stuff.

People have asked me what being married is like, and I have to say that, for the most part, its absolutely no different than life before marriage. Janessa and I lived together for over a year and a half before we got married, so its not like we're moving in together. Other than getting some cool gifts and being pulled closer by a nice experience, marriage hasn't changed my relationship much at all, and I admit that I'm confused as to why people thought it would. I guess there are some women who change after getting married, or so I'm told, but Janessa isn't one of them, she's as wonderful as ever and I wouldn't have married her if I thought she was that type of person, anyway.

Interestingly enough, though, being married has changed my mindset about life in a significant way, and, admittedly, its not something I anticipated at all.

For the first time in my life, I'm not in any real sense on my own. Marrying Janessa joined our lives together and I am daily reminded of this by the presence of my wedding band. I've never worn a ring before, so it took me several weeks to get used to having one on. The feeling of the band on my finger is a constant reminder that I need to take my life more seriously and that I need to be more responsible. It has, in a very real sense, opened my perspective up to the world. I guess I grew up.

Don't worry though, I'm still a silly bastard most of the time.

<3

Rob